Etiquette expert Peggy Post emphasizes that while etiquette rules adapt over time, true manners involve a “sensitive awareness of the feelings of others.” Etiquette rules are meant to facilitate smooth social interactions but should not replace genuine manners.
Previously, it was proper for a man to stand when greeting a woman. Now, standing when greeting anyone signals eagerness and respect. This practice shows a readiness to engage, regardless of gender.
Traditionally, women were served first at meals, followed by men. Nowadays, the focus is on efficiency and gender-neutral practices, affecting both restaurants and private gatherings.
Once, a man was expected to wait for a woman to extend her hand. Today, anyone can offer a handshake without waiting for the other person to initiate. This gesture remains an important aspect of professional and social interactions.
The old rule suggesting wedding gifts should match the host's cost per plate is outdated. Now, gifts should align with your budget, avoiding the need to inquire about the event’s expenses.
Previously, there was a year-long window to send a wedding gift. Currently, it’s considered best to send gifts within a month of the wedding to ensure timely recognition of the occasion.
The traditional expectation that men must pay for meals is no longer applicable. It is now acceptable for anyone to split the bill or for the inviter to cover the cost, reflecting modern, equal expectations in dining situations.